Relationships are a lot like houses. You take the time and plan what you want and then you build. Usually the house gets built and you and your mate move in and live comfortably. You may make modifications, but the house still stands. Occasionally you may notice a few cracks in the walls and you make repairs with stucco or plaster. Sometimes you may notice that the cracks re-appear in the same place. This could be a cause for concern. You follow the cracks and see that it might lead to the foundation. Not good. You do some digging and find that the house may have not been built on a firm foundation. Now what do you do? You could try to fill in the cracks, but that would be simply cosmetic. You could tear down the house and re-build. The problem would be solved, but it would be a costly undertaking. You could remove the unstable ground under the foundation, but that too would be costly. You could also ignore the problem. The house could settle and you could have problems down the road, but for all intents and purposes, the house is livable. It might stand the test of time just fine with minor difficulties. On the other paw it could collapse at a later time. I guess the best thing to do is hire some friends who are contractors to evaluate the situation.