I never really considered myself a shy person, but I never had a large group of friends. I'm sorry to say that it was MTV's "Real World" or "Road Rules" that made me really desire to have a large circle of friends. When I finally found the fandom and so many wonderful people, it was right around the holidays. There were lots of posts in groups about how lonely people were. The little light when on in my head. Hey, everybody! If we're all alone, why don't we somehow get together! Then we won't be lonely! I made it a point to be as open, loving, accepting, etc. to everyone so that they would realize that they were not alone. I'd like to think that it was this attitude that helped me become a "popular" fur. One of the reasons why I tend to plan so many events and furmeets is to both feel less alone myself and to provide a social outlet for those who perhaps were like me several years ago in wanting to be social but not having any suitable way of doing it.
I am fully aware that there are those who just don't want to deal with other people. I know there are those with social anxiety. I try to provide a safe and friendly envoronment to put those people's fears at ease. Perhaps you don't like bowling or video games or movies. Fine. We all have our own likes and dislikes. The ones that bug me to no end are the ones that complain every other post about how lonely they are and how shitty their life is and then turn down invitations to be social. Some people enjoy their privacy and solitude. That's fine, but if you don't like the way things are going for you, only you can grab the bull by the....horns and do something about it. Nobody loves an emo. (isn't that right sciucaro?)