We're quite honest with each other. We know there are many potential pitfalls that lie ahead. And I know from reading LJ and chatting with other furs that there are a lot of folks out there that declare themselves mated and maybe see each other a few times a year. I couldn't do that. But in this case, there is a real possibility of Zen moving in with me by the end of the Summer. A lot can happen between now and then, but we're going to go for it.
One of my biggest concerns was that I have made myself available to many of you. There are probably a half dozen furs out there that I have been actively courting in hopes of cultivating a serious relationship with. The fact remains that I still do love you. I'm not trying to have my cake and eat it too. My relationship with Zen will be a monogamous one. I will respect that commitment. I don't want to push away or distance myself from any of you. You are all still my friends. I use my relationship with albear and dexter_fox as a template. We were all intimate with each other, but now they are mated. We still love each other, but I know that their relationship is on a slightly different level. And I'm good with that.
So if I made a commitment to you for AC, MFM, or MFF, I will still honor it. We have agreed to maintain a somewhat open relationship until the day he actually moves in with me. Like I said, we both know that things can happen. And my bearish nature to provide love to all (especially in the physical sense) will take some time to be brought under control. But I will do everything in my power to make sure that this relationship succeeds.