I teased yesterday that I had engaged in some bizarre sexual activity. Well, a few of you knew what I was talking about. I tried an idea that had been posted by another fur a few weeks back. And let's just say that it was a fun experience. It would probably squick a lot of you, but there are probably a fair number on my friends list that would have found it very exciting. I mentioned it to one furson during chat and that furson got really yiffy at the prospect. I was then playfully chastised for bringing out the "inner beast" of this furson. I took that as a great compliment. For this furson was not alone in that sentiment. In the past year I have taken the virginity of several people. And no, I'm not necessarily talking about yiff. It could be something as simple as putting on a fursuit for the first time. Perhaps it was the first kiss and/or snuggle from another man. Maybe a first collar. Maybe even being openly furry in public and not feeling ashamed.
I see this as my important function in the fandom. To let furs be totally comfortable with who they are and to let them express themselves to the fullest extent. I have added another cub to my family over the weekend. I love it when someone I have been getting to know asks if they can call me papabear. To me that is the ultimate sign of trust. They are willing to open themselves up to me knowing that I will provide them the best advice I can and treat them in a kind and loving manner. They will be protected in my paws.
The level of trust I have with many is truly wonderful. It can also be a burden as I wrote about last week. To take on the weight of others' problems added on to my own can sometimes be overwhelming. I then need a break for a few days to be myself and do my own soul searching. And that's where this topic of sex sprang from. There is a lot of furversion bubbling just under the surface for many I have chatted with. But once again, there is that trust that they can discuss that with me in a completely loving and understanding way. Be it plushophilia, zoophilia, babyfur, bondage, vore, or fursuit sex. I myself am willing to try just about anything. I suppose I should add "within reason" to that last sentence. An acquaintance from college who was very straightlaced (but buried very deeply in the closet) hung himself during asphyxiation sex.
As much as we try to deny it for the sake of preventing media exploitation, it is all there in its weird and wonderful way. It may not be something we should discuss to the public at large, but amongst ourselves in the community, it should not be something taboo. Once again, that is one of the beautiful things about the fandom that I have seen; the openness and understanding of all things weird, wild, and whacky.